Steven Saltzman cruised with his daughter Cruise Critic News Editor Dori Saltzman alone for the first time in June. His experience is below. Read about cruising with your dad — a blog from Dori’s point of view.
Having spent a delightful 12-day cruise with my adult daughter — the News Editor for Cruise Critic — I thought it might be interesting to offer a counter-view of the experience. My point of view here is how to make a cruise with your grown child the best possible experience for all us dads, so here goes.
Rule Number 1: Your daughter is a grown woman. She doesn’t need or want you to treat her like a child or to have you offer your opinion on most issues of daily living, so keep most of those thoughts to yourself.
Rule Number 2: Decide on the first day how you will know who is using the bathroom at 2 o’clock in the morning to avoid any embarrassing moments.
Rule Number 3: You should be proud of your daughter’s many accomplishments at this point of her life. All you have to do is relax and enjoy her company.
All choices related to shipboard experiences or adventures can be derived from the above. For example, although we spent a lot of time together — I tend to wake very early, well (read anything before 8 a.m. –) so we never had breakfast together. (refer to Rule Number 1) Similarly, there are lots of excursions offered on most ships, and you many not always want to do the same thing – that’s O.K, as well. At meals, watch your own calories. What your daughter eats or drinks is her own decision, not her dad’s.
We met several engaging people on this trip and although I’m a Ph.D. history, everyone was much more interested in hearing what my daughter had to say about travel and cruising (see Rule Number 3).
There are, of course, exceptions to every rule – you are still her father, aren’t you? So if she gets sick, you can put your foot down (as long as she actually agrees with you) and insist that she take care of her health. This can include taking something to relieve a fever or insisting she stay on the ship during a port call even if she says she’s feeling better. The medical staff can be of great assistance in these instances – and they might even side with you!
I had a great time with my daughter, and we bonded just like we used to many years ago. So if the occasion to cruise together arises, go for it.
–Steven Saltzman, Cruise Critic Dad
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